Straight guys turning gay

A couple of years later, I learned about the term non-binary, and that hit, too. I genuinely liked them and caught feelings for them. I started leaning into the lesbian label more. That's when a friend introduced me to the term gender fluid.

He was your typical straight guy – had only dated women, just out of a five-year relationship with his girlfriend, casually dating again. I even put socks in my underwear to feel what having a bulge would be like. Then one evening commute changed everything.

I even explored a bit myself, kissing a couple of girls while playing house, and I was always the boyfriend. I remember being a curious kid, looking up "girls kissing girls" on YouTube for reasons I couldn't explain at the time.

I resonate with both non-binary and gender fluid, but I don't wear either one loudly. I don't correct people all the time. I'm curious how many straight men would become gay if they could and how many would choose to stay straight, and why (For the record, I'm totally okay with being gay, this is just a curiosity.) Edit: To be clear, if you turn gay then you would be attracted to men, so how you currently feel towards men would change from what it is now.

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I wrote a whole explanation on my Instagram Close Friends story, breaking down my pronouns and why I identified as non-binary. What. Eventually, I joined a lesbian iMessage group chat. But I was still convinced I was straight. I could accept "bi" easier because of my religious trauma and internalized homophobia.

Still, from then through junior year, I hid behind fake profiles to talk to girls online. It was after someone in a chat asked me if I was a boy or a girl, and I answered, "Both. Very telling. I let folks say what they say — but know that I know who I am.

That might've been my only exposure, and even that wasn't intentional. "You know, for a straight guy, I've seen him in some funny places," he says. I wasn't ready to call myself a lesbian yet. I went through a phase where I did claim it. I had my first crush at the age of five; in 8th grade, I had my first girlfriend.

By continuing to use our site, you agree to our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use. I grew up in a religious Christian household. An older gay man adds that he likes to help out straight guys who are exploring. After high school, I considered that maybe I was bi.

I wasn't exposed to queerness, except maybe a scene from The Color Purple where Celie and Shug kissed — and even then, my mom would skip that part, though I'd already seen it once on my own. But even then, labels never felt right. It resonated deeply, but I still didn't know if I should claim it.

That helped me get more comfortable with who I was. A few years ago, a man shared this story on Reddit, capturing that rare, electric moment when attraction completely blindsides you and everything you thought you knew about yourself shifts in an instant.